Girlfriend Could Not Be With Me In The Emergency Room

Back in 2008, I went to the nearest Emergency Room because of back pain that was ongoing for 5 days. I could not stand properly and there was a slight limp when I walked due to pain. It affected my activities of daily living and my concentration on school.

When I went to the Emergency Room, my mother and then girlfriend came with me to the ER. As I was called in to be triaged, my mom made my girlfriend wait outside at the lobby for me, while my mom and I went inside. I wanted my girlfriend by my side, but my mom prevented her from coming in with me. Read more

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10 Ways To Spend Valentine’s Day With Your Loved One

February 14, the time of year that many love and many dread depending on whether a person is single or not. It’s the “Heart Holiday”, a day of love for many couples worldwide. On this special day, there are many activities and things that you can do to spend with your loved one.

Here are some ways that you can do with your loved on this Valentine’s day. Read more

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Chatroom Blues 101: Different Types of Folks You Can Meet

Being in a chatroom can be a very interesting experience to be in, especially if it’s gay or lesbian chatrooms. There are a few out there that are geared more towards the gay community, and for some reason, there are not that many lesbian chatrooms. These types of chatrooms give you a chance to meet people from around the world instantly.

And with meeting people instantly, this means also meeting creepers, perverts, jailbaits, and people who just want to have a clean chat on their spare time. Read more

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Proposition 8 Unconstitutional

It’s official! Proposition 8 is declared unconstitutional by the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals in California.

It’s time to rejoice! LGBT individuals can finally get married to their same sex partner in California again after so long since before Proposition 8.

What is Proposition 8 you may ask? This is a law in the state of California that was created to try and halt same sex marriages in California. This is a law that was greatly influence by Christian Fundamentalist thinking.

Way to go for this advance in same-sex marriage! Another victory! Party time!

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Happy National Coming Out Day!

Happy National Coming Out Day!

I still remember the first time I recognized National Coming Out Day. It was a few weeks after my first girlfriend broke up with me and I was a mess emotionally. I couldn’t think clearly, and I did not have any support whatsoever during this sad period of my life. At the time, I thought,

“I need a group of people who I can identify with, somene who is like me, and just a new set of friends who are gay like me.”

I did not have anybody to support me at the time, and what made it difficult was that I was still in the closet at the time. To make a long story short, I came out for several reasons: for support, affirm who I am, and in a way, revenge for being forced in the closet. (that is another story I will tell you about soon)

I am glad that there is such day of celebration. The more visibility the LGBT community gets, the more confidence closeted members of our community will feel about us, and the more support they will find and feel, just like how I did when I came out.

Coming out is a very powerful process to experience, and sometimes, even if it may not end well for others, it is actually a powerful experience to finally accept yourself for who you are when you come out to the world, especially to the people who are closest to you.

Coming out is an experience that can remove lifelong burdens from you and help you accept who you are fully, and with that said, Happy National Coming Out Day 2011. In case you are wondering about my Coming Out Story, click the link above to read all about it, and hopefully, may it inspire you to come out if you haven’t done so, and if you already are, may it empower you more.

Cheers!

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Happy LGBT History Month!

October is celebrated for many things, such as Asian Heritage Month and Hispanic Heritage Month. One celebration for this month that is very important is LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered) History Month.

What is this you may ask? LGBT History month is a celebration of LGBT individuals who have contributed great things to both in and outside the LGBT community.

Take Lt. Dan Choi for example. He served in the US Army as an Arab linguist and was discharged under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”, a law that was created under the Clinton Administration back in the 90′s in order to protect LGBT soldiers. However, this law somehow evolved into a “witch hunt” type of law where if you are found to be gay or lesbian, you are automatically discharged from the military. Lt. Dan Choi has helped in bringing this issue to the nation, and in addition to his help and other military members who were discharged under this same law, attention was given to this issue, and on Sept. 20, 2011 at 12:00AM, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” was repealed for good.

Another great example also is Constance McMillen, who was involved at the famous 2010 Itawamba County High School Prom incident, where she was not allowed to go to prom because she was not allowed to bring her girlfriend as her date on her prom, and also was not allowed to wear a tuxedo. This has caused an uproar within the entire nation, and organizations such as the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) stepped in to help Constance with her fight against her school board for her right to attend prom.

(Pictured from Left to Right: Lt. Dan Choi, Constance McMillen) All rights to images belong to their respective owners.

Another example is Dan Savage, an author who is responsible for the project “It Gets Better”, which started with him and his partner posting a video on youtube sending out the message that “It Gets Better” even if life now as an LGBT person is difficult due to the challenges we face.

Click to see Dan Savage’s video here: It Gets Better by Dan Savage

These individuals I mentioned are just some of the individuals who have made a great impact within the LGBT community, and there are many more that are featured for this year’s LGBT History Month Celebration. For more information, you can check out http://lgbthistorymonth.com/ for more information on what LGBT History Month really is and also who will be the LGBT individuals featured each day of the week.

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